by Michelle Walling, CHLC
Contributing writer, In5D.com
Every relationship we have is sacred, as it provides a mirror by which we get to know ourselves better. As we grow spiritually, these relationships can change with the changes in ourselves. The ultimate goal in sacred relationship is to love yourself enough to feel complete, and to share your completeness with another. When this is accomplished the sacred fire is created and one can move closer to the place called “home” through the Holy Grail relationship.
Contracts with soul mates
We all set up contracts with our soul mates before incarnating to give each other experience. We chose our parents, our siblings, and our best friends. At one point in our awakening we realize what a gift this was as we look back at the lessons we learned from these loving souls, even if the experience did not seem that way at the time it was experienced. Being in relationship with these people taught us how to be in relationship with others and we all have had our share of comings and goings with various people in relationship throughout our lives.
The purpose of all relationship is to be able to awaken to what needs to be worked on within yourself in order to grow spiritually. If something is mirrored to you the first time and you do not see it, then a pattern will emerge and another person will bring you the same experience and down the line until you finally see what it is you need to work on. This could be self love, judgment, righteousness, or something else that is in alignment with clearing the path to enlightenment.
As we find ourselves in a time of spiritual advancement, we can look back see just how much we have worked on ourselves. We are now in the home stretch and something wonderful has happened that will give us the tools needed to make the final adjustments toward raising our vibrations into the next dimension.
The gift of sacred fire can be shared between two people who vibrate at the same level and join in lovemaking from the wholeness of the heart.
Being “in love” at this stage of the game of life is a wonderful gift and is the highest form of sacred relationship between two people whereby their final lessons can be learned from a higher state of consciousness. The sacred fire can burn away all lower vibrations and can keep one in a state of joy and bliss. It is a gift beyond measure, as love is eternal and is what we are truly made of.
How do I attract a soul mate of the same vibration?
The answer to this question is tricky, because like simply attracts like. You will attract to you someone who is on your level of vibration without having to do anything at all due to the Universal Law of Attraction. As we grow spiritually, we tend to have loved ones fall out of vibration with ourselves and new people come into our lives, like a revolving door. For all intents and purposes, the real question is how to prepare yourself to attract the highest vibrational partner to have a sacred relationship with.
One of the hardest things to accomplish is self love and self forgiveness. Many people were taught throughout their lives to seek love and material things from the outside world in order to fill the hole they felt in their hearts. That hole has always been the separation from our Creator and can be filled with love for yourself once you realize that you are a part of the Creator. That is really the one thing that could change this world; everyone realizing who they really are.
Beliefs and judgments have been entrained within us since birth that make us feel less than worthy. It has been hard to accept every part of our body as perfect, since unrealistic thoughts of what we think we should look like have ruled our lives through Hollywood. For some people, their whole lives have been a downward spiral of not feeling like they were ever good enough. Once we realize that most everything shown to us has had the sole purpose of making us feel like we weren’t good enough, we can overcome this lie and open our hearts to loving ourselves just the way we are.
Loving yourself takes practice. Take a look at yourself in the mirror and repeatedly tell yourself how much you love yourself. Many people do not take the time or effort to do this, and their relationships reflect it when they fall into fear of self worth or losing their relationship. At the same time, the person they are in relationship is probably having the same issues so it would be perfect of both people worked on the same thing at the same time, thus one would not outgrow the other and have to attract a different partner. Being aware of this and sharing with your partner makes it easier to stay in relationship as you continue to grow and learn about yourself and your mirror.
The ultimate state of being you can mirror to your partner is to be yourself. Being yourself does mean thinking I am going to act this way or that no matter what the consequences because I have been this way all of my life and no one should change me. It is having the wisdom, compassion, and grace to look at the things in your life that no longer serve you. It is making sure you are committed to yourself first and then project that wholeness to your partner by being the example. Beliefs and habits will fall away as your partner recognizes your perfection and chooses to resonate with you.
When it is time to change partners
Sometimes we outgrow our relationship if one person is doing the inner work of love and forgiveness and the other person is not consciously doing their work. The Universe will tend to pull the two people apart, and it will seem as though conflict is in the forefront as the one who did not do the work is getting their fears mirrored back to them. There comes a time that our inner selves will tell us that it is time to move on and that can be very painful.
The fear within us may want us to try to change the other person as a last ditched effort to try to help them. Sometimes this works depending on the overall plan the two of you had together, but unless both people are consciously aware of their own thoughts and behaviors and make the changes necessary, it usually turns into unhappiness for one or both in the relationship.
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to move on when it is obvious that you no longer resonate with the other person. Everyone is on a path of self realization and self empowerment, and no two people will get there at the same time.
The Holy Grail of sacred relationship
As we perfect the love for ourselves we begin to BE that highest vibration of love. The beauty of attracting someone who is vibrating at the love resonance is that the union of the two in a loving sexual relationship can open the door to creating energy together that is capable of catapulting the consciousness of the two into another realm or dimension.
The following is an excerpt from the book The Prism of Lyra: An Exploration of Human Galactic Heritage: “It was also decided that during the evolutionary development of humanoid forms (within the Earth’s galactic family) that the male and female polarities would manifest in separate but complimentary body types. This serves as a reminder that in order to create, polarities must always be joined or integrated. The notion is widely held that an individual has a tendency to feel most “at One” when he/she is joined with another in love.”
The ultimate joining of a man and a woman in true and complete love allows for creation to occur. This defines the spark of the Creator we all have within ourselves and allows us to responsibly create together. Whether it be creating a happy life together, working together in service to mankind, or creating a child together, it is really about remembering that we have this ability. This kind of creation cannot be described with words. It is sacred and divine and takes oneself “home” where there are no fears, worries, or third dimensional problems. It all begins with the work one needs to do within which opens the heart up for someone to attract to you the same love that you have for yourself.
The key to attracting the perfect sacred partner is to be that perfection yourself.
Recognizing who you really are gives you freedom over everyday illusions that were invented to keep you in enslavement. True freedom lies within your own heart and opening up to allow someone else to join with you creates the space from which you remember how to move forward in your spiritual advancement, toward “home”. As the veils continue to be lifted, we will remember how to actually use the energy created between two sacred lovers to propel both people into new realities in exploration and new levels of creation.
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About the author:
Michelle Walling, CHLC is a Holistic Life Coach, international public speaker, writer, webmaster, and radio show host. In 2013, Michelle started her public career as a spiritual, metaphysical, and esoteric contributing writer for In5d.com and bodymindsoulspirit.com. Michelle is the webmaster for five websites including MichelleWalling.com, cosmicstarseeds.com, in5dshop.com, thestarchildren.net, and howtoexitthematrix.com. Michelle is the host of In5d’s Cosmic Awakening Show and In5d Network. Her personal Facebook page can be found here.